Counselling

You are here because you want to feel better. You want to have control over your emotions. You
want to effectively respond to them in order to meet the demands of your life, to adapt to
stressful situations in helpful ways and move forward on your goals.

You experience your mind this way:

  • All over the place… “I just can’t seem to focus.”
  • Rigid, all or nothing thinking…Never/always, good/bad, right/wrong language
  • Repeated negative thoughts about the future and past… “I can’t stop thinking about… ”
  • Critical and judgmental of self, others, life (It’s all their fault, It’s all my fault, I don’t deserve good things, I feel so guilty…).

Instead I can teach you to:

  • Stay focused
  • Improve your concentration
  • Be more fully present
  • Balance your thinking
  • Be more compassionate to yourself and others

 

 

You experience your emotions this way:

  • Emotionally sensitive …”It doesn’t take much to get me going.”
  • Over the top…”Often people tell me I am too emotional.”
  • Stick around too long…”My emotions take a long time to calm down.”
  • Numb or don’t allow yourself to feel your emotions… “I’d rather feel nothing than feel bad.”

Instead I can help you:

  • Be more emotionally resilient and increase your positive emotions
  • Be even keel – more balanced emotionally
  • Bounce back quicker – let go of painful/uncomfortable emotions quickly and easily
  • Experience a sense of calm co-existence with your emotions

 

You respond to stress this way:

  • Cope ineffectively – with food (too much or too little), sleep (too much or too little) caffeine, alcohol/drugs, sex, shopping, gaming/internet, yelling at loved ones
  • Avoid your stressors/feelings or obsess/dwell on the stressor
  • Act impulsively – act without thinking
  • Create more problems and stress

Instead I can show you how to:

• Reduce your suffering
• Cope effectively
• Stop obsessing and dwelling on the problem situations
• Calm down so you can think more clearly
• Make helpful decisions and choices to improve your life and move forward on your goals

You experience your relationship this way:

  • Unable to assert yourself – passive and/or aggressive
  • Typically put other’s needs and wants before yours
  • Lose your self-respect and feel resentful
  • Unhealthy or unstable relationships
  • Destroy relationships or push people away

Instead I can help you:

  • Assert yourself appropriately
  • Improve your relationships with others
  • Improve your self respect
  • Let go of relationships that do not serve you
  • Allow yourself to be vulnerable and create intimacy
  • Cultivate and maintain stable, healthy, loving relationships

You experience yourself this way:

  • Feel empty and disconnected
  • Low self-esteem
  • Unsure of who you are – unstable sense of self
  • Don’t trust your thoughts, feelings, body or gut

Instead I can assist you to feel:

  • Connected
  • More self-confident, loving and accepting of yourself
  • More solid in who you are
  • More trusting of yourself – your thoughts, feelings, body and gut

 

I use a number of approaches in my work, however I draw primarily from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT); a Mindfulness and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy blend. This is a comprehensive, evidence based model used to teach people how to improve their emotional intelligence, learn how to problem solve and cope more effectively. It is delivered in 4 modules: 

Mindfulness Skills – Take control of your mind to reduce pain and increase happiness
Effective stress/distress management – Manage overwhelming emotions when you are going through a very difficult situation
Emotion regulation – Identify and change emotions, when you have them, and how you experience and express them
Assertiveness/Interpersonal effectiveness – Get and keep healthy relationships and increase self-respect

If you identify with any of these experiences here and believe you could benefit from my approach, you are where you need to be. If you are ready to get the results above, don’t hesitate to reach out to me.

Contact me for a free 20 minute consultation and we can see if we are a good fit.

All sessions are video sessions using a secure video-conferencing platform.

Receipts can be tailored for clients who have benefits for treatment by a Registered Social Worker in Ontario and Quebec.

 

Yes, i am ready