As a Law of Attraction Coach, I believe that success is unlimited and there is no ceiling to what anyone can accomplish. As an entrepreneur, I realize that my business success includes working on my business and in my business.
This past week, I attended another business seminar to work on my business. The presenter was an entrepreneur who started his entrepreneurial journey as a teenager and had grown his multimillionaire dollar company over the last 25 years. He is also a top performance athlete having won two world championships. He has a partner with three beautiful children. And, has expanded his career by becoming a business coach. That is quite the resume!
His credibility as a business coach was very impressive given his success. And, he certainly did provide value at the seminar. Still, I walked away from his presentation knowing that doing success his way was not for me. Like many other business and success coaches I hear statements like:
“Treat it like a competition!”
“Do whatever it takes!”
“Entrepreneurs work 16 hours per day, 6-7 days per week.”
Abundance For Life Balance
These statements are counter to the philosophies and the practices of the Law of Attraction which states what you focus on you create and grows. They are also in opposition to my values of love/connection and my mission to help others live more balanced and harmonious lives.
When I hear a business coach talking about working 16 hour days, yet still having time to workout and spend time with their kids everyday and then start teaching about how to have life balance, something does not jibe. Time is an equal playing field for us all. But, as Deliberate Creators of our lives, we are always at choice about how we think, feel and do.
Competition is an illusion often fueled by the belief that you can not create what someone else has or that there is simply not enough to go around. An abundant mindset is inspired by others success and embraces co-operation. You understand that the Universe is abundant and there is more than enough to go around.
If your goal is to have a multimillion dollar company, are you willing to work 16 hours per day, six to seven days per week? You may succeed at your goal (And there is no guarantee, if you are not in alignment with your goal in thought and feeling), but at what cost? Are you willing to sacrifice your marriage, family, and health in order to do it?
And why? Do you think that money and things are the cause of your happiness or unhappiness? Truth be told, the converse is true. Money and things or lack thereof are the effect or result of your happiness or unhappiness.
Busting Your Butt, Passion or Obsession?
Many entrepreneurs I know are “busting their butts” and are not making millions. And, they are certainly not telling me that they have all the time in the world to tend to their health and spend time with their loved ones.
If that is what it takes to have a multimillion dollar business then I am out. In fact, I am out even if this is what it takes to have a business in the six digits. But, here is the thing. I don’t believe one has to compete, do whatever it takes and work these inhumane hours to reach that level of success.
It is called “workaholism” for a reason. People can become just as obsessive compulsive about their work as one can about alcohol or drugs. This degree of extreme behaviour over time is simply not healthy.
I have worked with clients who are overly focused on their work and business because they get much of their self-worth, validation and identity in this area of their lives. It is inevitable that other areas of their lives are suffering. And, they are suffering. They are using their career as a way to bolster their sense of self and avoid dealing with these other areas that really matter to them.
Your All Does Not Equal Having It All & Doing It All
It doesn’t have to be this way. Case in point, Christy Whitman is a Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach who has a multimillion dollar business and in her book “The Art of Having it All” she talks about how having it all looks different to everyone. She lives her “all” by having a successful career, being in great great physical shape, (She works out five-six days per week.) and spending quality time each day with her husband and two children. She admits she does not do it alone. She has a team who works on and in her business. She also has a nanny for her kids.
But, she got to this place of abundance because of her belief in and application of feminine energy. Abundance can be acquired through ease and grace. Your success does not have to be acquired though hard work, force or struggle.
There is much power in feminine energy demonstrated in the Law of Allowing; the principle of least action and no resistance. When your thoughts and feelings match your goals, you are in a place of no resistance. The Law of Detachment, the notion that you must detach from the process and to some degree the outcome of your desire is also a philosophy of feminine energy. In fact, much about being a masterful creator in life is being in more feminine energy and being less in male energy or action to realize your goal.
Being able to step away from action to create success may seem counterintuitive and illogical. However, relying more on feminine energy is a very intuitive process. In this space, you get ideas and inspiration of what actions to take that will have the most impact. In this way you can save time, energy and effort. And, your true nature of abundance can be fully realized.